It's So Taboo!

[Ella Ray]

Sexually speaking there are many so called "taboos". One that comes to mind readily is anal. Of course I thought this was something only prostitutes or porn gals did. I never imagined myself ever doing it. But I have been blessed with a boyfriend who is tender, caring and very loving. He wanted to make this as comfortable for me as possible. And you know, it wasn't as awful or scary as I once thought. While not something I would want to do on a regular basis, it's definitely something that I would do occassionally which is what I think most men want. They just want to know if you are game. I thought that after we accomplished our goal, he would be asking for it every night. But he saw it as an amazing gift and something that shouldn't be taken for granted or abused.

[Tabitha]

I was something that actually really freaked me out, but after trying it I wasn't horribly opposed. still I don't feel a need to do it all that often.

[Ella Ray]

I think most women are freaked out at first. I think it's bewildering to us. I myself kept thinking "why would anyone want to do that?" Also considering that women do not have prostates that can be ultimately stimulated.

[jen]

Ella you are right it is a gift, its not something anyone should ever be forced to do. Ive done it, its not that bad, I usually save it for special occasions like birthdays and christmas.

[SlumberPartiesByKami]

Something that is actually fascinating also, is that you can actually "orgasm" from backdoor! It's not the same as a vaginal O, but very satisfying. There are literally 1000's of nerve endings just waiting to get untapped in pleasure! Many men (& women) think that anal sex "must mean that you're gay. In all reality, over 50% of heterosexual men admit to enjoying anal just because of the strong sexual pleasure they receive--not to mention tapping into their "A" spot! Also, it's the #1 researched sexual topic on the 'net! Another great fact, is that men can have an orgasm equivelant to our G-Spot orgasm! I think that is absolutely amazing!!!

I always tell my clients that have not done backdoor, or have tried it and did not like it -- GO SLOW! Use LOTS of lube, and even a 'lil anal eaze can help w/ the discomfort. Sometimes starting small can help too (especially if your partner is "well-endowed"!), use a finger, or small *made for the backdoor* toy. YOU do all of the moving. YOU decide the speed, rythim, and depth of penetration. A great position for this is to have him stand at the end of the bed while you are on all 4's and back up to him. Then rock back and forth and "knock" on your opening until your muscle relaxes. Also, lots and lots and lots of foreplay is key to a great backdoor experience! It can also majorly intensify vaginal stimulation as well as G-spot when done together.

Just my .02!
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[Alice]

I think a huge part of the reason I haven't tried it yet is because Im self-conscious.

[John]

Kami gave great advice, anal is not for everyone. I have had girlfrends that have enjoyed it more than vaginal sex.
Start small as Kami said, and don't be self conscious, to avoid messes use a enema before play time.

[Jim]

Perhaps I am old fashioned. But for me the ultimate is shared oral. At age 17 the lady down the street invited me over after church to mow her lawn. When I was done she called me inside. What followed were several decades of special times. But anal never entered our minds.